May 09, 2016
Stop trying to be normal!
If I heard it once as a kid I must of heard it 100 times. “You need to fit in with the other kids.” or “You are not normal”. At the time I was probably made to feel bad about being a bit different, I guess I didn’t understand what was really going on or what the issue was, it was not my objective to be awkward or different but I seemed pretty good at it.
Looking back now and linking it to the current day I still wander what this concept of “normal” really is all about, isn’t it a bit like “average” or “run of the mill”? Well lets get something straight, I have no desire to be it, live it or really have anything to do with it if that’s how it pans out and right now I would encourage you to have the same mindset.
You want to make it in the current era no matter what your industry, trade or passion then please STOP TRYING TO BE NORMAL and anyone who encourages you to do so you just “do not” need in your life.
It is as simple as that.
So here are 4 ways to not only make you ab-normal (which is highly desirable) but to dominate your life!
- Fix your environment: Think about the old adage that “you are a product of your environment” Well this is pretty true. Have a look at all the different environments that you move in, be it socially, professionally or other, whats going on there? Are they spaces that promote out of the box? Are they spaces that promote optimal performance? If not then you have to become a “Creator of your Environment”. This is where it gets interesting as if there is not an environment around you that allows you to be a total legend, then you have to make one! Easier said than done but trust me it is doable. Once you are in the right environment you dominate life, its a fact!
- Mindset: This is perhaps one of the most talked about subjects, but people are still failing to address it, the good news is that more and more we understand the importance of mindset, what we now have to do is action it. You have to be thinking different to the masses. We often don’t as we are afraid of being the odd one out because society has taught us to fit in, to go with the flow and all other rubbish like that. I encourage you to be the elephant in the room, to have a mindset that is so different to everyone else that they wander if you are really ok, if you are really human. That is where the magic happens.
- Dream big: I mean really why can’t you…….literally do anything? It’s not that we can’t, it’s that as yet we do not believe we can! Why not wake up from your biggest wildest dream, no matter what it is and write it down on a piece of paper and then look at how you can make it reality. From the invention of the motor car to the domination of technology companies in the world today, all of the dreams that the guys at the forefront of those companies had were totally off the chart, no one could even comprehend the dreams they were trying to convey but they made it happen. Dream big and make it happen.
- Lead: Take the lead on life, on your life. Don’t be afraid to do so. Stop waiting for someone to come and show you the way, to take the lead for you, to roll out the red carpet for your next great achievement or next promotion as it is simply not going to happen. You have to be the boss, you have to drive it, you have to control your own destiny and lead others to get what you want. The maddest thing is that when you do take the lead and get some momentum behind what you want, others eventually hop on board. Remember the quote from Gandhi. “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” Think about it and how true it is. LEAD.
So forget normal, forget what others think, I know life is tough, your industry is brutal and the odds are not always stacked in your favour, that is part of life. You can sit around and get all bent out of shape about it or you can follow these simple 4 things and start changing things, things that make you better, make life awesome and allow you to have what you want and really what you deserve.